You slip a finger along the leg of his diaper. You feel a damp diaper but you’re not sure how wet it is, and so you undo the snaps on his onesie to see if he needs a change. Looking at the diaper and giving it a little squeeze, you know that your little guy is wet and probably needs a change, but that you could probably wait. So what do you do?
Knowing when to change a wet diaper might seem like a simple thing, but if you’re a daddy to an adult baby or little boy it can actually be a bit complicated. In fact, there can often be very good reasons to leave your little guy in a wet diaper or to at least wait until his diaper has been given a full use!
The Sudden Flood
Your little guy may have had lots of time in diapers or they might be relatively new to him. Maybe he wore diapers before his daddy came into his life, or maybe you’ve gently brought him back to diapers and now you hear the happy crinkle of his ‘pampers’.
But if he’s relatively new to diapers (or new to wearing them for extended periods) you might find that you need to keep an eye out for sudden floods.
During those first days or months you’ll probably find that you need to give your little guy frequent diaper checks. He’ll go from dry to soaked with nothing in between. And the suddenly soaked diaper can be one of the major reasons for leaks, so it’s best to keep an eye out – nothing makes a baby boy crankier than leaks!
The sudden flooding of a diaper is normal for a “new” AB boy – he’s not quite used to being in diapers, and his body still reacts like it’s used to going potty, holding it all in and then releasing at once.
For these little guys, you’ll want to change him out of his flooded diaper as soon as you realize he’s wet. This will help prevent leaks but it will also reinforce that a wet diaper leads to attention and care from his daddy.
Over time, he’ll start realizing that even using his diaper a little bit will lead to attention from his daddy and wetting it will become more frequent and natural.
Always a Baby
Over time, his body will learn that there’s no potty any more, and that he has a daddy to look after him and keep him in the diapers that are a big part of his feelings and self-expression.
When you brought your little guy into your life, you hoped that he’d feel completely safe and comfortable being kept in diapers. As you find him wetting his diaper more frequently instead of waiting for a ‘release’, this is a sign that your little guy is trusting you and feels safe as your baby boy.
For these little guys, it’s OK to leave him in a slightly wet diaper. When you find a damp diaper, make a comment, give his diaper a little squeeze, or kiss the top of his head.
Letting him know that daddy is always checking his diaper gives him a sense of confidence that you’re there for him and communicates that it’s OK to use his diaper as frequently as he needs to – because daddy will always check him and be ready to change him when the time comes.
One thing to watch out for, however, is the little guy who fusses about being changed. This is often more true of “little boys”.
You might check their diaper without them really noticing as they play with Legos or watch cartoons. Then you tell them it’s time for a change and they shake their head.
“Noooo…..” they say, “I’m not that wet.”
The instinct is to let them be. But the truth is, a lot of little boys would say the same thing until the diaper was practically falling off from being so soaked.
Just remember – a little boy often feels happy in a wet diaper. And while it can be OK to leave him in a wet diaper so that he can feel the soggy reminder of why his daddy keeps him padded, you’re also a daddy and a wet diaper needs to be changed.
Once he hops on the change table, he’ll remember how nice it is to have a daddy there to care for him and change him, and the crinkle of a clean diaper will give him a special warm feeling of its own.
So while it’s OK to let your little guy play for a bit in a wet one, don’t leave it too long and always remember that at the end of the day, daddy is the best judge for when his baby boy needs a change.
But is there a magic moment? Do you like daddy to change you as soon as you’re wet, or do you like it when he waits for it to be soaked? Do you think daddy should decide, or do you fuss when he tries to change you before your diaper has been “fully used”?
Maybe it’s one of the wonderful things about being a daddy to an adult baby – he doesn’t mind a wet one, but daddy likes a crinkly clean diaper and the changes that go with it.